Cut the stems ends off of white carnations on the diagonal. Add warm water to a vase and place in a few drops of red food coloring. Place the carnations in the vase. Watch as the red coloring seeps into the carnation.
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Creative Valentine Gifts for Her - 4 Ideas That Will Make Her Adore You
by Judy Hardaway
As every man who's ever been in-love knows, women love romance. And they especially love romantic gifts. But a clever and romantic gift will be a grand slam every time.
Women love creativity. Anyone can go to the store and just buy a gift. But a creative gift shows your willingness to go the extra mile to make her feel loved. Plus creative Valentine's Day gifts are usually one of a kind, which makes them more personal and ultimately extra special.
Some of these ideas may seem a little bit challenging, but anyone can handle it as long as they're willing to put in the effort.
And just think - after she receives the gift you'll get to brag to her about all the trouble you went through just to show her how much you love her. And then she'll get to brag to her friends about all the trouble you went to. Women love to brag about their men when their men make them feel special.
Try one of these ideas and she will be absolutely amazed and impressed with your creative abilities.
(1) Design a Personalized Valentine's Day Card
Make her a Valentine card using your personal computer and printer. Use elegant fonts to create a romantic appearance. Fonts can be downloaded for free online. You can also find unique little Valentine images in the form of Dingbat fonts, which can also be downloaded for free online. These can be used to dress up the appearance of the card. Use a graphics program to put it all together. If you don't have a graphics program just download a free trial version such as Adobe Photoshop or Paint Shop Pro from Corel. Print the card on an elegant paper such as fine art paper. Special papers can be purchased at most office supply stores. And don't forget the bouquet of roses.
(2) Create a Love Poem on Fine Art Paper
Write her a love poem or find a poem you like - be sure to include a personal message for her including her name. If you're not poetic, just write, "I love you because" and then list all the special things you love about her - and make it a very long list. Women love to feel appreciated. As with the Valentine card suggested above, use elegant fonts and images and print it on fine art paper. As an elegant finishing touch have the poem framed by a professional.
(3) Create a Web Page Dedicated to Your Love for Her
Register a romantic domain name such as www.I-Love-Jessica.com and create a simple web page. The page can include photos of the two of you, a romantic poem or something original such as "The Top Ten Reasons I Love Jessica Smith". If you don't know anything about designing web pages don't worry. Many web-hosting companies provide simple web page editors you can use to design the page. If you want something that looks extra unique do an Internet search for "free romantic website templates". You can find lots of templates for as little as five dollars that look very nice as well as some that are free. You can also find basic web hosting for very cheap or even free in some cases.
(4) Make a Gift Basket with Her Favorite Goodies
This is the easiest and least creative idea but can still be very special. Purchase a really pretty basket, some filler for the basket in her favorite color and a beautiful ribbon to wrap the handle and tie a bow. These items can be purchased at a craft store. Fill it with some of her favorite things such as her favorite perfume, bath soaps, scented candles, gourmet cookies, something soft and silky wrapped in beautiful tissue and tied with a ribbon and perhaps a little teddy bear. You could also include a music cd she's been wanting and perhaps a piece of jewelry also wrapped. By including some of her favorite things, it shows how closely you pay attention to her wants and needs. Make your gift special by showing her you care. Put that clever masculine side to use and be creative and romantic. You can do it and she'll love you for it. Have a happy Valentine's Day.
About the Author
Judy Hardaway is the writer for Amazing Christmas Ideas - a Christmas gifts and ideas website. For ideas such as Christmas gifts for women, visit Amazing-Christmas-Ideas.com today.
In this article we're going to review what at least a majority of people in the United States view as the top 10 chocolate treats.
The famous Gallop Poll does polls on just about everything, especially on what people like to eat. So it should come as no surprise that the most recent Gallop Poll done in 2005 shows that chocolate is the number one favorite dessert among people in the United States. But this poll went a little bit farther than most. Not only did it break down the favorite generic desserts but also broke down the ten favorite chocolate based desserts.
The results showed that their was a quite a diversity in the chocolates that people enjoyed and the difference in numbers between 1 and 10 were not very far apart. Having said that, a top ten list was still put together. Some of the items on it may come as no surprise to you. Others may be a total surprise.
10. Coming in at number ten was chocolate ice cream. The number one brand of chocolate ice cream was Bryers. This probably should come as no surprise as here we get to combine two treats in one, ice cream and chocolate. It should be noted that this was simply plain chocolate ice cream with no toppings.
9. At the number nine position was chocolate covered cherries. To be more specific, this was actually chocolate covered jelled cherries and not whole cherries. You can usually find these in a box of chocolates purchased at a candy store.
8. The number eight chocolate treat is chocolate milk. The top brands are Hershey, Nestl?, Bosco and Cocoa Marsh. It should be pointed out that it is mostly children weighing in on this one which might explain why this choice fell so far down the list.
7. Coming in at number seven is the famous treat known as plain M&Ms. Kids and adults alike have been popping these things like pills for many years now. It should be noted that the reason M&Ms came in so high is not so much for their taste but for their convenience. Pop open the bag and gulp 'em down. Doesn't get any easier than that. They're great at movies, which by the way is the number two snack at a movie behind popcorn.
6. In the number six spot is a hot fudge sundae. There was no particular brand mentioned. It should be pointed out that the majority of those that responded said that preferred the sundae with whipped cream. It wasn't decided whether or not the whipped cream had any large effect on the hot fudge sundae's popularity.
5. Mid way through the list at number five we have chocolate brownies. Again, no brands were mentioned but the general consensus was that home made brownies, not from a mix, were the best. These were a favorite at picnics.
4. The number four favorite chocolate treat was chocolate layer cake, a favorite at birthday parties. For that matter this was a favorite dessert for any special occasion and high on the list with children.
3. Coming in at number three was the Nestl?'s Crunch Bar. This is probably one of the most popular candy bars in existence next to the bar that came in at number two.
2. Yes, at number two is the original Hershey's chocolate bar that people have been eating for over a century. Many thought this would be number one on the list and were very surprised to find it at number two.
1. So what was number one? This came as a surprise to many people but the number one chocolate treat was Russell Stover assorted chocolates. This is the number one seller on Valentine's Day and the number one favorite chocolate treat of all time. Many people claim to be able to eat a whole box in one sitting.
Michael Russell
Your Independent guide to Chocolates
Most think that relationships exist to make them happy. When they find that special person, they believe that love will naturally grow. But in relationships we encounter everything, challenges, joy, fulfillment, loss. Yet, despite all training in life, we seldom learn about the knitty gritty of relationships, how to build the relationship in a way that brings out the best in all.
To start this process, there are 7 simple laws we can learn and use. These laws will act as guideposts, helping us to choose wisely and to avoid costly mistakes.
Law #1 - There is never a lack of relationships. Relationships are abundantly available wherever you are.
Many live with the idea that love is scarce -there's not enough to go around and that they must cling to whatever comes their way. This idea can cause them to get involved with the wrong person, or stay in a relationship that is toxic for them. It is crucial to realize that relationships are plentiful. (If you don?t have one, it is because you are keeping it away). It is never necessary to cling to someone out of fear of being alone.
Law # 2 Know Who You Are And What You Really Want
Many enter relationships hoping that it will give them a life, or make them feel better about themselves. They may want their partner to take care of them, or give them the approval they?ve been denied. But it is of the utmost importance to know and respect who you are, to enjoy your own company and be aware of your own values and goals. Otherwise, you can lost in a relationship, become a pawn in someone else?s world.. A healthy relationship is an expression of two people, both equally valuable. In this kind of relationship you discover all you have to offer and how to offer it.
Law #3 Don't Keep Choosing The Wrong Person For You
Some find, to their amazement, that they choose the same partner, over and over again. Relationships patterns repeat as well. This is called the repetition compulsion. It is the unconscious need to repeat a situation over and over until we master it or it turns out the way we want it to. This compulsion keeps some people stuck in a bind. If you are caught in this, see what this pattern is doing for you. Actively choose different places to go and individuals who are different from those you usually meet. Become stronger than the pattern. Turn you life around.
Law #4 - Enjoy Honest Communication
Without the ability to say No, we cannot say Yes. Don't pretend to be someone you're not to make another happy. Don't give up that which is meaningful to you for the sake of a friendship. The bedrock of all happy relationships is mutual respect and acceptance and open, honest, communication. Ask for what is important to you. Find out what is really going on for your partner. When a person really feels listened to and accepted they feel loved.
Law #5 Don?t Try To Change Or Fix Other Person Let everyone be who they are, including yourself.
So many of us are obsessed with changing or fixing everyone. This is not friendship, but manipulation. . Many believe that if the person cared enough, they would certainly change for them. This is not so. Changing another is not your job. Find out who the person you are with really is. If someone feels accepted, they can change themselves, if they want to.
Law # 6- Know Difference Between Real and Counterfeit Love.
Feeling happy, high, excited or attached to a person, feeling possessive or dependent is not love. It's infatuation, ego thrills or dependency, usually based upon fantasy. Inevitably, fantasies fade. People then feel that the love is over. It is not over, it?s just been a form of counterfeit love. We must learn the difference between real and counterfeit love, between love and fantasy. Counterfeit love always involves struggle and pain. Real love never does. Real love is a verb. It is not based simply upon feelings, which come and go, but actions. It is important to learn "to"do love". Do love and you will be loved. in return.
Law #7 - See the Best In Others - And In Yourself.
What we see in others, we bring out in them. If we focus upon their negative points (and let them know about them), you can be certain the negativity will increase. When we focus upon what is good in that person and let them know, this brings out the best. The better a person then feels about themselves, the less need they have for negativity. Often it can just fall away on its own.
Law #7 1/2- The Master Law When They Come We Welcome, When They Go We Do Not Pursue
Understand that each relationship lasts for a certain time. You've come together to learn from one another, to share, enjoy and often move along. This is not rejection, but growth and change. Change is natural and inevitable. Don't see it as failure. Don't see it as loss. Don't try to control when time comes to go. Realize that if the person is supposed to be with you longer, they will return on their own. The greatest art of relationships is to know how to let go. When someone new comes welcome them, when it's time to let go, thank the person for all you've received from them and let go.
Discover the surprising truths about love that will save your relationship, by working with the unique program in Dr. Shoshanna?s new e-book Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships). http://www.truthaboutlove.com .
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When you spy on your suspected cheating spouse, please make sure you consider all the possibilities you might encounter and whether you can handle them.
Have you considered the many situations that spying might uncover? Can you imagine the worst thing you might find? Predict what your response will be to the worst-case scenario. Are you ready? Here are some specific questions to ask:
1) Do I have friends I can count on for support if I discover the worst? Do they know I might need them? Have I told them exactly how they might help me? Do I have the capacity to stand back from the deep emotions and not get mired or lost in destructive thoughts and feelings?
2. ) How have I handled emotional pain in the past? What if it gets almost unbearable? If I encounter the worst possible emotional hurt and pain, do I have a therapist I can contact immediately and see soon to help me through the rough spots?
3.) You see the signs of a cheating spouse. What will be my strategy for what I find? Do I have a strategy for the different scenarios? Do I have a strategy to confront or not confront my spouse? How, when and under what circumstances will I confront him/her?
4) What kind of strategy will I have for self-care? What will I need to do to keep myself functioning somewhat effectively?
5) Do I have a coach or an objective someone who knows about cheating husbands and cheating wives and who can help me develop strategies and goals for confrontation and self-care? Someone to keep me focused and working on these strategies and goals?
6) Do I know what kind of affair I might face? Do I know the prognosis for that kind of affair? Have I educated myself about affairs and what I must do to effectively resolve and move through this crisis?
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Online dating is fascinating.
You can meet thousands of available singles that are literally just a click away, seeking love, romance, dating, marriage, friendship ? and yes, of course sex. Men and women alike join dating services hoping to make new friends and start new relationships.
But there are some common mistakes ALL people make when using Internet personals ? including YOU!
Here are ten common mistakes all people make when dating online. Check out if you are guilty of some of them.
MISTAKE #1 - ?Giving it a try?Most people start using online personals with the attitude ?Let me give it a try and see where it goes?. They don?t really think they WILL meet someone ? they only HOPE to meet someone. What is the difference? When you ?hope? to succeed, you don?t try hard enough ? if it works, great, if it does not work, fine, at least I?ve tried. When you think you ?will? meet someone, and it does not work, you change something in your approach to online dating to get the results you want.
BOTTOM LINE: Don?t ?give it a try? ? do your best.
MISTAKE #2 - Hoping ?the right person will find you?Most people don?t pay when post their profiles on online dating sites, which usually means they can receive letters but cannot answer ads of other members. They hope people will be writing to them. If you are an 18-year-old model-type girl, this may work for you. But if you are not, then you shouldn?t hope your dream partner would email you out of blue. You will get much better results if pay for premium membership to the dating site and write to people yourself.
BOTTOM LINE: Contact other people; don?t wait for them to contact you.
MISTAKE #3 - Sending one-linersIt?s amazing how many people using online personals send letters of the type ?Hi, liked your profile, please see my profile?. If your photo does not impress the other person in an instant, most likely they will just delete your email. Some *might* actually read your profile ? and if there is nothing in your profile that impresses them in an instant, then they will also just delete your email.
BOTTOM LINE: Write letters that have some substance in them.
MISTAKE #4 - Sending form lettersI always know when I receive a form letter - always! I am sure you know it too. If there are no personal references in the letter, I know this letter was not written specially for me. No one wants to be one of the crowd. Every person wants to be special!
BOTTOM LINE: Write individual letters for each person you contact.
MISTAKE #5 - Writing boring lettersMany people are guilty of this one. They write about things they want to say and not what the other person wants to hear.The result: letters that are plain BORING.Remember: it?s not about YOU ? it?s about THEM! Tell them what you liked about their profile so much that you decided to write to them. Some things may be uncertain in their profiles ? ask questions and guess the answers. For example, she ticked ?Tell you later? in her profile about kids ? if she did not have any kids, she would say so. Ask if she has kids and tell her you think she does and that you just love kiddies. A person who actually THINKS and what more ? thinks ABOUT HER, it?s indeed something special, and your letter is sure to get noticed. Don?t talk much about yourself in your letter (she can always read your profile) - tell her why you think you will be the right guy for HER. If you do not fit her requirements 100%, tell her why it won?t be a problem. You pride yourself as having great sense of humor? Back up your claim ? make her laugh! From the first line, your letter should grab her attention and she should not be able to stop reading till the end. THEN she will be certainly compelled to check your profile on the Internet personals website.
BOTTOM LINE: Write interesting letters ? the type of letters you would like to receive.
MISTAKE #6 - Contacting dozens of members at onceOnce people pay for their premium membership to the online dating site, they tend to contact dozens of members at once. The reason for that is that they don?t hope to receive much response. STOP for a minute: what are you actually looking for? Most of us are interested to start a relationship with someone special. In fact, all you need is only one person ? but the one who is RIGHT for you. Do you really want to correspond with 50 people at a time? Spend more time reading profiles on the site, and then select a precious few that you like the most and write to them. Make sure you get responses from your favorites before contacting other people.
BOTTOM LINE: Don?t contact dozens of people at once ? concentrate on the ones you like the most.
MISTAKE #7 - Not following upLet?s face it: we live in a fast-paced world. We tell people ?Let?s get together soon? and forget it in an instant. We send an email, never get a response and lose the contact forever. This is extremely important when using Internet personals: if you do not get a response, follow up. Send another email. Tell them you are waiting for an answer and you want to hear from them even if they are NOT interested. Having somebody who is really interested in you is not very common nowadays. This very fact may convince people to answer you. Check if they are premium members. If they are not, they might have to pay the membership fee before they are allowed to answer your email, and this is the reason why they did not respond. Check the rules of the website before assuming they are not interested.
BOTTOM LINE: Follow up. Make sure there are no technical problems averting your contact.
MISTAKE #8 - Not having a photo in your profileIf you don?t have a picture in your profile, you are missing out on people?s attention great deal. Many great singles, men and women alike, NEVER answer mails from members without photos ? leave alone writing to them. If you are concerned about privacy, take a photo where you are in the distance and hardly recognizable, or put on sunglasses. Smiling broadly also changes your face.
BOTTOM LINE: Put a photo in your profile. This is proven to increase your chances up to 10 times.
MISTAKE #9 - Bad body language on the photosWhen people look at your photos, they try to figure out what kind of person you are. If you cross your arms of legs, or in any other way ?cover? your body on the photos, placing a barrier between you and the viewer, you make them think you are timid, insecure and lack confidence. Use open body language - open palms, arms on the sides of your body ? never ?covering? it, smile and ?look? the viewers in the eyes.
BOTTOM LINE: Check your body language ? people make their opinion about your personality by looking at your photos.
MISTAKE #10 - Giving upYou?ve tried this and that and nothing worked, so you give up: ?Internet dating just doesn?t work for me?. That?s the biggest mistake of all. What you should do is to use your negative experience and learn WHY it did not work. Look at profiles of other people that attracted you and compare it with your own profile. Try to change your wording. Get a new photo with a happy smile. Try to contact somebody you feel nothing about and see how it goes. Maybe you are just trying too hard? Treat your search for a partner as you would treat the search for a new job: if at first you don?t succeed, try and try again. Make it your habit to check new listings every day and write to one person. See what works and use it again. Borrow ideas from other people. Just don?t give up!
BOTTOM LINE: Online dating works. All you need to do is to gain experience. Practice makes perfect. Your special person is waiting for you!
Elena Solomon works in online dating since the early days of WWW. She is the exclusive dating consultant of Soulmades.com.au ? Internet personals for singles seeking love, romance, relationships and fun.
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Will they or will they not cheat?
Have you ever told your partner or spouse how you would feel
if you found out they had been cheating? Maybe your spouse
or partner will never cheat on you! Are would they?
Ok, maybe they want cheat. But you must face the fact that
your spouse or partner will be tempted with the "grass is
greener on the other side" especially after all the
responsibilities of parenthood have set in and things are
not so carefree anymore. And you will be faced with that
same temptation unless both of you have suddenly become
really, really an eye sore.
Who knows? They may be attracted to the same thing you find
attractive about your spouse or partner in the beginning and
now! By realizing this now, depending on the type of
relationship you are in, not only can you make this one of
the healthy topics to discuss but you can possibly get back
some of what was lost. You know before all of the many
responsibilities set into everyone's life.
Cheating causes so much pain and grief and if you have not
experienced it firsthand, take a look around - It affects
everyone! Saying no requires at times the willpower to walk
- no run away, the action to back up what you say and truly
caring about your partner or spouse feelings.
Do not become obsessed with this topic but talk about things
like this before it happens. Talk about how the both of you
would feel and what would cause the both of you to entertain
the thoughts of cheating. Would it involve something
physical like not receiving enough affection or something
emotional like not feeling appreciated or loved? You want
facts that will help you both understand what your needs are
so you'll NOT look elsewhere.
We seek love and acceptance in our society and this does not
change once we enter relationships. We want it regardless of
the changes we grow through with our body and spirit. So
when we do not feel we are getting these things from the
ones we love, we seek it from others! If you do not want to
make the topic about the two of you just yet, talk about
cheating in relationships in general before the opportunity
presents itself to either of you.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Angela Renee is a wife, mother of three and a writer who's
passionate about helping "Every Day Become A Mothers Day."
With her straight talking yet compassionate manner, she
works through her articles at www.worlds-best-mothers-guide.com
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In my private practice for over 14 years no matter what my clients have come to see me about, there has always been an issue about a better relationship.
Here are 7 of the most common misconceptions my clients have related to me about having a better relationship. These misconceptions are followed by my perspective on each one of them.
Myth 1 I have to love everything about my partner
Reality Check 1
You were born pure and pristine. You then learnt behaviors from your parents, teacher, coaches, church etc. (who did their best to teach you about a better relationship). These behaviors have become the backbone for your way of living and having a better relationship.
Perhaps a common behavior that irritates having a better relationship would be leaving the toilet seat up after use. This is merely a behavior and not the essence of the person. However, when you may consider this behavior to be the person, this destroys the concept of a better relationship, creating all kinds of conflict in your need for a better relationship.
Myth 2 Love means that I can fix your partner
Reality Check 2
You met your partner because of some special quality or charteristic that you admired. You need to accept and allow that quality to flourish in order to allow you and your partner to grow into a better relationship.
You may be unaware that you do not even like yourself. Yet by allowing your partner to grow and expand, you will experience the quality of your partner and the beauty within you, as you begin to enjoy a better relationship.
Myth 3 I am supposed to give up the things I like in order to be in a better relationship.
Reality Check 3
Giving up the things you like to be in a better relationship is like take a knife and cutting away a part of yourself.
Your better relationship is based on the uniqueness of you and your partner.
When you give up your uniqueness you rob yourself of a better relationship, your passion and your partner of your creativity.
Myth 4 I will be rescued by a knight in shining armour
Reality Check 4
You may have been conditioned to live your life expecting someone to take care of you. What happens if that person becomes ill? and is no longer able to take care of you.
Your responsibility in creating a better relationship, is to bring your passion to the table of your relationship. Some days you will be the knight in shining armour and another day your partner will be the knight in shining armour of a better relationship.
You will each get a chance to shine like star in a better relationship because of your strengths and weaknesses.
Myth 5 It cost a lot to be in a relationship
Reality Check 5
In a material context, a better relationship can be expensive if you think that love is based on the bigger house, car or boat. Although some of these material assets are necessary, they should not be at the expense of creating a better relationship.
Love is creating a better relationship by building a relationship that is based on the simple things in life, like walking and holding hands, going on a picnic (just the two of you), or sharing an ice cream.
Love in a better relationship is not about what you show on the outside but what you express in you heart. Love is not about money or materialism, love just is.
Myth 6 Love in a relationship is or is not a feeling
Reality Check 6
It is not what you say, it is what you do. You can say, "I love you" which may be merely words and no feelings (action). Love is the action of doing.
If you make a cup of tea for yourself, (the water is boiled), make a cup of tea for your partner. Whether your partner wants the tea or not is irrelevant, it is the thought that counts and the action that cements a better relationship.
Myth 7 I don't have to work at my relationship
Reality Check 7
As a child, you learned to creep before you walked. Then you learned the letters of the alphabet. In order to write, you had to learn how to put those letters together to make words and sentences.
These sentences then become the way in which you communicated.
When you and your partner stop communicating after learning how to use the letters of the alphabet in sentences, it's like 2 tape recorders talking to each other - Nobody is at home to enjoy a better relationship.
In summary:
1. Your partner's behavior in a better relationship is not your partner's true essence.
2. There is no need to have a clone of yourself. A better relationship requires some variety.
3. Giving up of your uniqueness to be in a better relationship is like throwing out the baby with the bath water.
4. In a better relationship there are no superior partners, just equal partners.
5. Love in creating a better relationship is not about money and the material assets (although there are important) but the simple things in life.
6. Love in a better relationship is active not passive.
7. Lack of communication crushes your desire for a better relationship.
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"Love conquers all, right?" Well----it's suppose to. But most marriages will end in divorce. Most of their problems are about the children, money, or in-laws. When couples commit to a long relationship, there are specific personality traits they should have in common.
1. Similiar physical texture (thick skinned/thin skinned)
2. Similiar emotional stability
3. Similiar degree of tolerance
4. Similiar intelligence/understanding of situations
5. Similar Interests
Without these five traits, the couple live on difference planes, different worlds. They are inclined to drift apart.
Couples grow by adjusting to their differences, but some times, the amount of the difference may be too much.
Love provides the reason for being willing to adjust to the other person's difference from yours.
A frequent question is; "How do I know it's real love?" The answer may be that when you are enjoying something special - ex: a movie, a sunset, flower, song, and you long to have your partner to share it with. The degree of longing will determine how much in love you are.
Growth in a relationship should come from; doing things together, allowing things to happen, accepting them as is, and changing what you can. It involves sharing and caring.
Couples usually don't mind working at their relationship as long as they have a closeness to each other. They don't want divorce, they want understanding. Divorce is usually a rebellion at not being able to get through to each other. The couple are still in love, that's why it hurts so much to part.
There is a story of a couple who had been engaged for seven years. The young lady didn't have the courage to commit. They had their personalities profiled and learned to adjust to each other's personalities. They understood each other as individuals and their relationship
flourished.
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Keep the romance in a relationship alive with these quick tips.
Planning
If you are married, or living together its still important to get out of the house. Go on a date without children or friends at least once a month. Planning can often makes the difference between having a date or not. Even though a date is planned, spontaneity allows for following the whims of enjoyment. Always remember the cost of the date does not determine its value.
Create Memories
Every time you go out go somewhere. Creating new memories help relationships grow. Go on a date and experience something new together. The key to a successful romantic event is attitude.
Surprise
Surprise inspires romance, if you`re going to be back first, buy your lover`s favorite takeaway, and try to rush and arrange a beautiful candlelit dinner complete with wine and silver candlesticks. If you`re first out and slightly early, buy a bunch of roses and drop by your lover`s office, leaving them on her desk with an invitation to dinner tonight. On the way home, buy your lover`s favorite dessert or ice-cream, curl up together on the sofa after dinner, get that dessert out, and enjoy it together.
Surprise him/her with a sensuous massage after a romantic dinner. If you do not cook, you can still arrange a romantic dinner. Just make sure you show that you have put some thought into it order her favorite food or buy a picnic hamper packed with gourmet delights. Be adventurous, and eat in a park or beach. If it rains, just move indoors to a carpet picnic.
Communicate
Verbally express how you feel but remember action speaks louder than words, however, sometimes your mate needs to hear them.
Suspense
Keep your mate in suspense. It goes hand in hand with romance. Notes in his lunch or brief case : Slip a suggestive note in, and leave him hanging. Pack a quick lunch of sandwiches or your lover`s favorite for his/her lunch in a lunch box. Leave a romantic message inside. The anticipation will build all day.
Celebrate Memories
Give your mate a small memento to trigger memories.
Play Treasure hunt.
Leave little notes telling her how much you care around the house in places you know she will find them, like on the bathroom mirror, on top of the milk, in her purse etc. You can also include clues on the bottom of each message to help her find her Valentine's day gift.
Romance
Wake up early, and prepare breakfast in bed for your lover. When your lover gets home late from work, suggest he or she lie in the bathtub while you scrub, rub and bathe him or her.
Keep it Fresh
Finding new activities that both enjoy heightens interest in being with each other. Unplug the television and the phone. Snuggle up on the couch together and watch a movie. Let him choose the movie, or choose one each and watch two. You want to have your mate's complete undivided attention. Light some incense or use scented candles. You will love the way they season the room. On the way home, buy your lover`s favorite dessert or ice-cream, curl up together on the sofa after dinner, get that dessert out, and enjoy it together.
Prepare
Always have after dinner mints. Nothing stifles romance than bad breath. Need I say more.
Music
Music can be very seductive. So when it comes to picking music, go with what you like. However, when creating a romantic mood keep in mind that Jazz and R&B is usually the music of choice. Don't forget to set your tape or CD player on continuous play. Nothing kills the mood like stopping to change the CD or to flip the tape. If the only source of music you have is the radio there is plenty of stations that plays Jazz and R&B. Serenade your mate even if singing is not your strong suit.
Compliment
Daily compliments to (and from) BOTH partners. Such as..."Hi honey, you look beautiful today!" Or "Hey handsome! You did a wonderful job pruning that tree!" You know just anything positive that you can think of to brighten your spouses day.
Thoughtful Gifts
Buy a thoughtful gift. Keep an ear and eye out for what she says she needs or wants. Always remember the cost of the gift does not determine its value. Buy him a present that takes some thought, like a book by his favorite author, or the DVD of his favorite movie. Buy him two tickets to see his favorite sports team, and tell him he can take a mate with him.
Spontaneity
On a rainy day, instead of taking the opportunity to do the errands, do the laundry, cleaning, etc... , take an afternoon nap. Put music on at a low volume and, enjoy yourselves in the stillness of the moment. Even though a date is planned, spontaneity allows for following the whims of enjoyment and keeps the dating experience from becoming old and disinteresting.
Participate
Keep conversation going. Ask questions. Be interested in what he/she is saying. Arrange to meet after work at that quiet pier where both of you love to sit and talk while enjoying the ocean breeze.
Candles
Dim the lights to add an air of mystery, and create a warm cozy feeling. If you`re going to be back first, buy your lover`s favorite takeaway, and try to rush and arrange a beautiful candlelit dinner complete with wine and silver candlesticks. Wear something sexy, but comfortable. Freeze candles a hour before using. They burn slower. If you don't want to use scented candles, you can use heated oil, potpourri or incense.
Francesca Black a romantic at heart, writes for Valentine Shop http://www.valentine-shop.com and Angel Gifts http://www.angel-gifts.net
I believe that finding, sustaining, growing, and enjoying satisfying relationships is one of greatest joys and challenges we have as human beings. We have generally been blessed with a tremendous desire to love and be loved; to listen and be listened to; to take care of and accept care from others. And yet meaningful, sustainable relationships often elude us ? especially as it applies to the opposite sex.
Here are some things I?ve learned in my walk through life - as a divorced single mom, widower, and over 50 remarried - about finding and sustaining a ?soul-mate? relationship:
1. Know who you are and what you want. You?ll never get what you want if you don?t know what it is. As women look for love, we often take what comes our way rather than seeking what and who we want. Knowing the type of person you want to spend the rest of your life with comes from knowing who you are ? your values, interests, what you can/will tolerate, what you won?t.
2. Learn how to disagree, speak your mind, and/or confront.
Avoiding conflict is death for a marriage. It may seem like you?re on the right path by never, ever arguing or disagreeing but avoiding conflict requires repression of anger, which leads to depression of feelings. Passion is extinguished in this environment. Learn to fight fair and keep the slate clear. (see article on What Are You Afraid Of?)
3. Speaking of passion ? keep the fire lit! I think women often underestimate the critical role sexuality and having a really good sex life plays in a successful marriage. Men, you know what I?m talking about! Create romantic opportunities, ask for what you want, talk, talk, talk ? do what you as a couple need to do to keep this aspect of your relationship alive and well.
4. Don?t allow children and child-raising to take precedence over your marital relationship. A great marriage is the best gift you can give your children. Get away from the kids on a regular basis. Find a good sitter! Arrange for an overnight with just the two of you at least once a year. Talk about matters other than the kids, the bills, the family. Someday it will just be the two of you again. Be sure you still know each other.
5. Take responsibility for your actions and affirm each other. Say, ?I?m sorry? when you make a mistake or hurt your partner. Say, ?Thank you? when they do something for you. Appreciate what your husband does! Don?t take ?expected? action for granted. Recognition and affirmation are two of the best gifts you can give each other. Spend them freely.
6. Don?t take on the persona of, ?I shouldn?t have to ask ? he should know.? This is one of the greatest mistakes women make in a relationship. I hear women say things like, ?But if I have to ask for it, the real meaning/pleasure/gesture is lost.? Get over it! Men can?t read our minds. They?re not always tuned in or on the same wave length. Maybe they just don?t know. Be a big girl and ask for what you want! (I?m pretty tough on this issue)
7. Get help if you need it. Don?t put your head under a bushel. If your relationship is in trouble (no matter whose ?fault? either one of you thinks it is), seek out ways to make it better. Find a relationship coach, a therapist, a marriage counselor, a book ? I highly recommend John Gray?s Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus In the Bedroom (it?s on tape so you can listen to it together), Don?t give up ? keep searching and talking and striving until things get better. The answer rarely lies in changing partners.
Coaching tip
Review what you have, what you want, the hidden or apparent treasure of love. If you have a soul mate, never, never take this relationship for granted. It is rare indeed!
Mershon Niesner, PCC, CPCC Professional Certified Coach
Author of Ribbons of Love ? Affirmations for Abundant Living. Visit www.coachmershon.com to subscribe to the Business Woman?s Advantage ezine and other FREE Resources for Success.
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Yes, men think so...or is it 'lust' at first sight? How can a woman or man 'really' know?
If a woman thinks it is 'love at first sight', she may have found an incredibly 'hot' guy who matches her ideal social persona 'catch'. If this guy actually knows how to be a natural, all women will want him and she will have to fight with others to 'keep him' (I can teach you to be this man).
Otherwise most of them appear to be quite boring because they try to impress her and don't 'get it'. But when dealing with 'love at first sight', yes it might be, but then longer term dynamics start to sink in and kind of spoil it.
Beauty is in the eye of the beerholder, I mean, beholder.
'Love at first sight' is usually only perceptionally based if not in its entirety. No one can match up ideally to one person's expectation of who they are or who they should be. Once you find out more about them, you're going to be disappointed in what you thought they were. See how selfish we as people really are?!
Eventually you go through the hardships of a 'real' relationship and very very rarely will everything work out perfectly where the people are a real match (at least in our highly developed, opinionated, individualistic cultural society).
You are only throwing your perception or ideals on who you think that person is or should be (I have done this a lot in the past). We want a person to be the ideal match to what WE think they should be. Most often if not all the time, we find out they are not actually what we idealized and then are a little disappointed. A real relationship is going to take a lot of work and a lot more work than two 'simpler' people.
If you can spark attraction shortly after you meet a woman, there is a more realistic chance she will feel deeper emotions for you than her social persona (of what states what she says she wants) and she will often forgive your other misgivings as long as you understand natural attraction.
This is actually very generous of her because now, guys (way) below her level physically actually have a chance. The process of attraction is slightly different for men and women.
Men will often instantly disqualify women for a sexual relationship based on their looks (ahem), while women keep an open mind to see who knows how to make them 'feel' the feelings that they respond to so powerfully physiologically and emotionally. They are interested in a mans character attributes because that are things that can be of interest for the long haul.
These feelings have a biological root which she cannot choose or control. This is why an average looking guy who 'get's it' can have more of a chance than a good looking guy who easily proves himself wrong to her right away.
She will resent that most of her counterparts do not 'get it' yet but will be open to starting something with a man who finally can just 'lead her through' the natural process of attraction...then often sex 'just happened' or she got 'swept away'..this is the way it is supposed to be and that she fantasizes about (and reads in those sappy romance novels).
Don't be thrown off by what a woman says she wants if you are not that social reflection of her consciousness yourself, she is programmed biologically to react to men who are true naturals with her or who display aspects of being a natural. Do not let that stop you. Her biological inheritance (when in tandem with a true natural man) will override ANY social programming she may have, as long as he maintains true congruency and doesn't 'screw it up'.
If you are a natural you probably won't screw it up when you are reaching that part of her (there is much more leniency here). If you are 'walking on egg shells' by trying to be 'qualified' by her social persona, it's virtually a guarantee you'll screw it up even with any small move. Take the very ending of 'Boat Trip' where Roselyn Sanchez says to the wussy Cuba Gooding, Jr. character, "Ok, but you BETTER not screw it up."
Sure the movie ends with a kiss but who has the control here? Whose reality is he in? Love at first sight, but he is based in the wrong paradigm of 'being' that he WILL screw it up because of the power dynamics and several other factors (she is in control by far).
In fact, you will almost put aside the entire notion of 'love at first sight' because it's too romancey for you (although you may secretly keep that dream alive); but you understand reality a little more, that different relationships with different women are going to give you different experiences.
Of course you may be aware of lust at first sight with women you see most everywhere you go, but you really have to get to know her more to find out who she is, otherwise it is all just perception.
If you can develop yourself to look as good as you can and get your internal paradigm and life straight and clear, then you can naturally accelerate the process of attracting women and starting things with little effort. Your focus should really be on developing yourself and living in a natural paradigm, while denying all of the perceptual B.S. that is going on. Be an interesting and intriguing man and improve yourself; HAVE something to offer women who are lucky enough.
Your 'love at first sight' from their point of view only happens if you match their social ideal (and traditional ideal of Prince Charming) and then know how to take everything from there...then all women will want you. You do not have to be Prince Charming..that is another article, but remember how you relate to her says everything. She needs to be turned up like a volume knob and you have to interact with her to spark the process of sexual attraction and her interest will grow in you...through time, may lead to infatuation, love, great respect, devotion, passion, etc. from her.
It is all in how you relate to her so don't pay too much attention to having to have Brad Pitt looks, with Soros' bank account...that's the same as you wanting to date a supermodel, except you probably have a better chance than she does to meet your ideal because there are so few men left who really get it and are a great catch in their own right (with some nice social status to boot).
There are countless beautiful women. The advantage and favor is in YOUR hands. There are few men left who are awesome catches AND who know how to deal with these women. Make women want you just by being your true self at all times; an interesting, funny, great guy and know how to take it from there (I can help you there as well).
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Rion Williams offers a free newsletter subscription on how to have 'natural success with women' and dating.
Making your own gourmet gift baskets is not only fun but also an affordable alternative to purchasing them ready made. Before picking out the gift basket itself, decide what candy you will be placing inside and how many you will want?for each basket. For every holiday, you have the opportunity to show off your talent - Valentine's gift basket, Mother's day gift baskets and Christmas gift baskets.
A trip to your local candy store will give you a huge assortment of choices.?Individual candies are available wrapped in very pretty and elegant?wrappings. Many other themed candy wrappings are commonly available. Sports themed wrapping, holiday and?birthday themes are popular.
Another alternative is to buy bulk candy and create small individual packages for your baskets using small cloth bags or squares of transparent wrap or tissue paper filled with the candies.?The corners are then?gathered up and tied with a bow. This is not only another cost cutting idea, but also helps to add a personal feeling to the gift basket. Consider the recipient when wrapping your own candies. Is she a teenage girl? Replace the bow with a clip or pretty scrunchie for her hair. Is it a male friend? Ask yourself what his interests are and what activities he enjoys. Perhaps you tie a golf tee under the bow of a candy assortment, or the bow atop the basket itself could be created from a necktie.
For a larger variety of candy choices than you have locally, consider the option to buy candy online. A quick entry into a search engine for a candy online store will bring you many more choices to consider for your baskets.
Once you have decided what will go into your gourmet gift baskets,?you can then?choose a style and size of basket. When making several different baskets, don't limit yourself to the same choice for them all. The basket choice for each recipient can be just as personal as what you choose to put inside. Consider what they might do with the basket once the contents are removed. And also don't limit yourself to just baskets! For a child a fun lunch box or backpack might be just the thing. A lady can always use another cosmetic bag or handbag. A gentleman would no doubt find a use for a metal tin or a small travel bag. Consider filling a beautiful vase, a large coffee mug or something as unusual & unexpected?as a Chinese take out box for that friend whose favorite lunch?is moo goo gai pan
With just a little thought to the recipients likes and interests you can make a gourmet gift basket really special. Personalization is the key. We all love chocolate candy, but as we grow older some of us begin to consider it a forbidden fruit. How did something that ancient civilizations considered the food of the gods become so strife with controversy today?
Isn't that the reason you've decided to create your own?
Natalie writes about food, nutrition and holidays. Gourmet gift baskets are one of best birthday gift ideas
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Tracking down a wedding officiant can be a little intimidating. Perhaps you remember a time when it was hard to get one if you weren't among the "regularly churched"! But times have changed, and hiring an officiant for your wedding is now standard procedure.
Basically, brides-to-be find themselves in one of two camps: Either they have a regular church and a favorite minister, who might be a longstanding family friend, or they need to find one through word-of-mouth or web sites.
The latter situation often costs more, but allows for a lot of flexibility. Depending on your tastes and faiths, you can often find a judge, a Catholic priest to marry you outdoors, a Rabbi to officiate at an interfaith wedding, a non-denominational officiant who encourages you to write your own vows, and so on.
How to find officiants
A good national directory for finding Catholic officiants is www.rentapriest.com.
If you're stuck for ideas, try asking vendors. Your florist or caterer is probably well acquainted with local options.
Another excellent way to find officiants is to visit a large wedding forum, like The Knot, and post on boards for your local geographic area. You can often get an idea of the flavor, preparedness, flexibility and even appearance of a popular local officiant.
When should you book an officiant?
Some officiants book early. If you're really particular about whom you want to do the service and can't budge on the date, try to book more than six months in advance. Some couples book a year ahead.
How much do officiants charge?
A minister at your own church may not charge anything at all, but may accept donations. In that case, a $100-200 donation is about average. Ask the minister yourself if there's any doubt.
An officiant you engage yourself will set his or her own rates. Rates generally range from $250-600, but some well-known officiants may charge more.
Do we send an invitation?
By custom, you invite your officiant to your rehearsal dinner as a guest. You also invite the officiant and his or her spouse to your reception with a formal invitation, just like other guests. Unless the officiant is an old family friend, he or she may decline to stay, but an invitation is proper. You aren't expected to invite the officiant's children.
Can you use a friend as an officiant?
It's done all the time, and can make weddings very personal. A father, mother, or the friend who introduced you can make for an amazing event. Be sure to pick someone comfortable speaking in front of large crowds, and brush up on your state's laws and licensing requirements. Here's a good site to begin your research:
www.northernway.org/marriagelaws.html
Your chosen friend or family member can become ordained "instantly and online" at the Universal Life Church, which in some areas will enable them to perform legal weddings. Again, be sure of your state's laws. Many times, ministers ordained by ULC will also have to register in their state and obtain a license before they can practice. Call your local county clerk for clarification.
Do I meet with the officiant before or after booking, and what should I expect at the meeting?
Ideally, an officiant will allow a "getting to know you" meeting before you book them, though not all will. Most at least offer telephone interviews, which helps you see how they fit with your personal style.
During your first meeting, the officiant will typically tell you about his or her background, discuss the logistics, bring up any premarital counseling requirements, ask some questions about your personal history, and show you a sample ceremony script. This is a good time to discuss special unification ceremonies or personal vows, bring up interfaith issues, and learn whether your officiant plans to attend your rehearsal.
About the Author
Blake Kritzberg is editor at "FavorIdeas.com" Stop by for a huge selection of wedding favors, Bridezilla's weekly adventures, and free resources for brides: save-the-date eCards, screensaver, wallpaper and web site templates.
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by Charles Samuel
Are you in love? Do you want to share your feelings with your special person? Are you a man of few words? Check this out! Romantic love poems would enable you to realize your dream of winning over the heart of love of your life. Even if you have already treaded the path of love and gone too far, love poems can impart a special meaning to special relationship that you share with your special person. Make your courtship a joyous experience with love poems.
Love poetry is like the potion of romance that has been around since donkey's years and without it romance almost stumbles. Poem is more loved and liked than the prose because of its rhyming quality and the highly imaginative style that compels people to dream. Just a glance at these love poems would send a shiver down your body if you have a sense of understanding the essence of love and romance.
You can find love poems online that are sentimental. Sending love poems online to your love is a simple gesture that's filled with emotions and warmth. Enclosing a love poem in a card is like the icing on the cake. You can either create your own poem or look for any of the great poetry that you might have read earlier. Classic poems are for love stories that are legendary.
Some couples find romance in humor too. There are funny love poems for those romantic couples who are class apart.
Romantic poems can be written and presented on any occasion, birthday, anniversary and wedding, to name a few. Love poems can be read for fun too. You can get inspired from reading them. You can also share them with your friends and relatives. If you have never fallen in love then you must read and discuss romantic love poems, who knows cupid might strike its arrow in your heart too.
About the Author
Charles Samuel is the author of the site http://www.secret-romantic-ideas.com/. Please visit our site if you want to learn more about Romantic Poems or any other fantastic romantic ideas.
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So you?re going on a blind date. Few dating scenarios are as nerve wracking, and you?ve probably heard lots of horror stories about miserable blind dates. Your blind date doesn?t have to be a disaster, though, if you follow a few simple suggestions to help it be more successful.
Prepare Yourself
Communication experts say that we commonly form an impression of someone new within the first four minutes of meeting them. The first impression you make will set the stage for the entire blind date so prepare in advance to make a good one. Choose clothes that are appropriate for the date, not too revealing or strange. Get a fresh haircut, trim your fingernails, and shine your shoes if needed. On the day of date itself, allow plenty of time to get ready and allow extra travel time to wherever the two of you are meeting.
Where To Go And What To Do
Plan the date for a neutral location, preferably one where there will be a number of other people. When you don?t know the other person it?s not safe to meet in private, plus if you?re in a fairly active location it?s easier to disengage yourself from the date if necessary.
Most dating experts recommend that a blind date not be centered on a meal. If the date isn?t going well and you?re having dinner, you have to stick it out longer than if you?re meeting for coffee. There?s also the cost factor to consider. If either person is investing a lot of money in the date activity that puts more intense pressure on both people.
The First Meeting
Arrive a little early, make sure you?re neatly dressed, and step forward with a polite greeting and hand shake. Remember to smile and be friendly, even if you feel nervous. If you?re a man, open doors, hang up her coat, and pull out her chair if you?re sitting down. If you?re a woman and your date does these things for you, say thank you and enjoy being treated with good manners.
Making Conversation
Getting the conversation started and keeping it going is important to the success of your date. Remember those experts who said a first impression is formed in less than four minutes? They also tell us that communication is based on much more than just words. In fact, when you?re talking with your date the words you use only account for 7% of the total communication occurring. Your tone of voice accounts for 38% of your message and body language accounts for the remaining 55%.
Ending The Date
When the date comes to an end, thank the other person and say something general like ?I enjoyed meeting you.? If things went really well then you can indicate if you?d like to date him or her again. If things didn?t go so well then don?t say you?ll call, or that maybe you could get together again sometime. This will create a false impression in the other person and simply avoids the truth.
If you don?t want to see the other person again, it?s okay to say so politely. Saying something like ?I think we don?t have a lot in common? is much kinder than saying ?I?ll call you? and then not calling. Always be kind, though, and make every effort to spare his or her feelings as much as possible.
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Adam and Drew's Dating Tips has a large variety of free articles that have been written by consulting 'experts' in the dating, flirting and relationship fields. Find out more at http://www.adamanddrew.com
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Valentines Day is a holiday that has been around for centuries. For generations people have been falling in love with this holiday while others have loathed it with a fiery passion. No matter how you feel about this day, Valentines Day, you should know that the day is one of significant meaning in history.
The true and exact history of Valentines Day may never be known for certain. As it now stands this history is a murky one filled with many different tales and interpretations. The most common being that Valentines Day is named in honor of St. Valentine who was martyred in the year 250.
As this story would have it in that times there was a mighty and cruel ruler named Emperor Claudius II. This was in ancient Rome. Back then February 14th was a holiday that the Romans would celebrate Juno, the queen of the Gods. On this day girls and boys would pair up by having names draw out of a jar. Man y of these couples went on to fall in love and marry. The problem was that with all of these people falling in love fewer and fewer boys were willing to go off to war and fight for Claudius the Cruel.
The emperor had a way that he thought would solve all of his problems in one fell swoop. He banned all engagements and marriages in the whole of Rome. Needless to say this did not sit well with anyone but him.
Men and women continued to marry in spite of this ban and the Christian priests aided them all that they could. St. Valentines was one of these brave souls, or so the history of Valentines Day goes.
St. Valentines was caught and sentenced to a terrible death. He was to be beaten to death and then have his head cut off. Supposedly it was on February 14 that he was martyred.
The church did not martyr him and make him a saint for wholly honorable reasons some say. The feast of Lupercalia, which takes place on the same day, was an ancient heathen custom that they were dying to get rid of completely. They thought that if they could simply replace these feasts and holidays with others then the people would be more likely to follow them, and they did. So truly Valentines Day being the day of lovers was begun long before, even centuries before St. Valentines was even born during the Lupercalia.
According to some experts St. Valentine fell in love with his jailers daughter while he was being held before death. This girl became a close friend of his and he left her a note when he died that was signed ?From Your Valentine.? And that is why we still to this day send Valentines Day cards to those we love and sign them the very same way.
Over the years Valentines Day has grown away from the religious day that it once was. It is now more commercialized but it still holds meaning for most people, especially those in love. Valentines Day is a day to celebrate that love and to share with each other the joy that they feel for each other.
Many people purchase little gifts for each other on this day each year but that is not something that you need to do. This Valentines Day just tell your lover that you love them and how much he or she means to you. Tell them how happy you are to have found them and do something special together. Even if it is taking a nice walk on the beach or going for a picnic, take some time out to appreciate one another. That is what the true spirit of Valentines Day is all about.
About the Author
Valerie Davis (The Hopeless Romantic) is the owner of Your Valentine?s Gifts http://www.yourvalentinesgifts.com, where you can find all your Valentine?s gifts.
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Throughout centuries, story tellers, and people from different background and cultures always refer to their fascination in meeting one day their soul mates. Is Soul Mate a myth? Do they really exist? Or is Soul Mate a figment of our own imagination that can help keep our hope for a perfect relationship and keep our hope alive. Or is it an escape way for not handling or not looking at ourselves in such a way that we keep delaying our responsibilities and things can be fixed when we meet that perfect relationship with those Soul Mates. Everything is possible! It is up to you and me to decide the bottom line of this puzzle.
If we talk in such metaphysics tone of words used, we will say we are all coming from the same source, one soul, branched out into different ventures or experiences to achieve and in reality we are all Soul Mate. Maybe that?s true but I believe there is more into it than that!!
How do we define Soul Mates?
Soul Mates is another Soul that share the same exact similar way of understanding as the other Soul and in this lifetime so they decided to share their growth and understanding together. It does NOT mean Soul Mates have to be in a relationship to make it work. What do I mean by that?
From the motion that a Soul integrate into life through a particular family, geography, religion, or situation for certain reasons. I do believe we choose our family, we choose our religion, and we choose where we want to be born for certain that the Soul itself will identify and in the same time you will be aware of it one day if you are well attuned within yourself. We will not dispute the reasons we go through that because we will have unlimited reasons here.
Let?s start with our choice of a family to be born with. If each one of us look deeper into our families there must be at least one person and many time there is more in our immediate family or cousin that we feel different with. That person can be your father, your sister, your niece, or your cousin. It really does not matter who that person but that person is your Soul Mate where you always enjoy being in their company, listening to them and mainly valued everything they say. Those experiences with Soul Mate we already started at young age. Then we grow up, how many of us we have one or two particular friends around us at school or where our parents moved to the new neighborhood. I bet you everyone can relate to someone. And that goes on until we are adult and the dating game started.
We need to understand one thing when it comes to relationships, as long as we do not rush ourselves into a relationship for a wrong reason and what I mean by that? Well the look of the person, what they drive, who?s his family, how rich they are, or how cute they are, what their education is, or just to be in a certain crowd. All of that will never bring you to Soul Mates. Why it never work because you are looking into the wrong substance.
With Soul Mate there is no Karma to deal with or work at. All you have an enjoyment of being in each others company. The only thing you know about your Soul Mate is whenever you are in need they are always there for whatever or deep your troubles are. Look around you through the years, can you identify already someone that fit that equation. I bet you do.
There are three levels of Soul Mates that I believe exist. I will look into that in my next articles.
Until then!
Copyright ? Joseph Ghabi http://www.freespiritcentre.info
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Almost every love story begins like a fairy tale. Relationship beginnings are always incredible and they can often experience a renaissance following wedding, honeymoon, or even a special anniversary. Couples often find that the love and romance becomes more of a challenge to keep alive when their lives evolve with jobs, children, and other life commitments. Sometimes love and romance can get lost in the shuffle of life. But the passion can be rekindled and kept alive by finding your inner hopeless romantic.
When it comes to igniting the passion, the best place to begin is at the beginning. Try to recall the things that you did for your companion at the beginning of your relationship. But, if you were never very romantic, don't worry; it's not too late. It's not hard to find the romantic inside you and once you find it the ideas will come and the love will flow.
Often in new relationships, it's the 'little' things that truly demonstrate love and romance. Try to remember romantic days like Valentine's Day, anniversaries and even the date you met or your first date together. Try to send a small, meaningful gift or some flowers to celebrate your feelings for your companion. And this isn't just advice for men! Women should do the same things for their men! Believe it or not, men love flowers and candy, too!
Writing your partner a long love letter describing how you feel for him or her is one of the most touching ways to generate romance. If writing isn't your forte, make a list stating what you love the most about your partner. Letters and lists can name things they do to make you laugh, why you appreciate them, how they make you feel when you are with them, and how beautiful or handsome they are.
Call your partner during the day just to chat. If he or she isn't doesn't answer the phone, leave caring messages on their voice mail. You can even try talking dirty when you know that it is safe!
Gifts are often a surefire way to show someone that you love them. While classics like flowers, candy and fragrances almost always do the trick, other types of gifts can be just as effective. Treat your companion to a romantic dinner and movie. Bring home a bottle of champagne just because. Leave romantic and/or funny cards under the bed pillows or around the house for them to find.
These ideas are simple ways to get you started on the road romance and love in your marriage. You may have your own ideas eventually, and those will be truly personal. Once you open the door to love and romance in your marriage, you will find a renewed bond between you and your spouse, and a greater level of happiness.
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Had you ever been in the situation where your heart suddenly beats so fast, losing your ability to think, having the sudden loss for words when seeing someone you admired? At that very moment, you were like frozen in time, lost into another world, a world so wonderful, so heavenly? Hmm? How is my description? Ha whatever, the fact is that at that very moment, you were totally defenseless. So defenseless that anything could have just hit you. An arrow? An arrow of love? Get what I mean?
Ok, let me share with you an experience of mine, a memory of my college days. Those were the days when we would always hang out in a big group, a group of both guys and girls, partying and having fun together. There was this fine evening that we gathered at a friend?s place for a little party, followed by some games of Black Jack during the later evening. We were sited in one big circle in this nice and cozy room. Sitting beside me was this girl, a very beautiful girl I must admit. But well, it had never cross my mind of a relationship further than that of a friend with her. There just wasn?t any chemistry between us. Then came an ace for me! Before I realize anything, this girl beside me suddenly just came in so close on me. I know she was just been excited and curious on whether I would get my Jack. But at this very moment, her knee was on my lap, shoulder right in front of my chest. We were suddenly just so close; I could feel the beautiful fragrance from her soft silky hair. My heart was suddenly pounding so fast, gasping for breath. I was totally at loss, for that very moment, she got me! That chemistry, that frequency, which had never happened between us suddenly just flowed through me so relentlessly. Just imagine, if she were to give me a peck on my cheek out of excitement if I got a Black Jack. Ha well, that of course did not happen and neither did I get my jack.
Get the picture now? This is a very natural human psychological reaction. When one is in the stage experiencing that sudden increase in the heartbeat, undergoing a sudden feeling of excitement, he tends to get confused, unknowingly developing that feeling of liking for that someone beside him, especially when the person is of the opposite sex. An opposite sex of, whom he does not have any bad impression. Not to mention an opposite sex of whom he has a good impression of?
Ha! I know what is on your mind now. But well, there is nothing wrong, why not? Go create that perfect atmosphere; an atmosphere that would make one?s heart beats faster. An atmosphere that would make the sudden chemistry of love flowing between both of you. A roller coaster ride? A haunted house adventure? Having a good laugh together after the rides? A little nice chatting session over the coffee table after a game of his favorite sports, tennis? Singing her a love song with your guitar in front of everyone?
Think about it, you plan yours. Take it slowly; build up that chemistry of love between both of you. You are definitely on the right track.
Rick Valens Staff Writer for http://www.loveletterbox.com , Love Relationship Discussion Forum
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People in long-term relationships, whether they are married or dating, often complain about getting into a rut. Your relationship may have started off with the great burst of passion and excitement but perhaps it began to wane because life is busy and work can where you out by the end of the day.
If you're in a dating relationship that seems to be in a rut, or wonder why you can't keep a long term relationship exciting anymore, perhaps you need to go back to the beginning. That doesn't mean you need to break up with your current partner and find someone new, it means you need to refresh the relationship with exciting and spontaneous activities.
When you look back on a period of your life, what is it that you remember? Is it the average day-in, day-out activities? Not likely. It is more likely those fun and spur-of-the-moment times when you did things that were hilarious or scary or new. That's what it means to go back to the beginning of a relationship, when everything you do is spontaneous and new.
Next time you and your girlfriend or boyfriend are deciding to do something on Friday, don't settle for dinner-and-a-movie. Do something different! Here are some ideas:
Play paintball
Rent a classic car
Go skydiving
Have a picnic
Or surprise your date with something spontaneous:
Start a water fight
Go for a romantic boat ride and tip the boat
Blindfold your date and take them somewhere they never been
Surprise your date at work just as they're finishing up for the day
Relationships fail for many reasons. One of the saddest reasons is that people simply drift apart because the other person doesn't excite them anymore. It doesn't have to be that you're your relationship, whether dating or married, can thrive when it is filled with adventures that the two of you share as you build memories together.
You'll look back on your time together with fondness as you consider the many fun and spontaneous things you did together. But doing those things is a choice. Choose to return to the beginning of your relationship and have fun again!
About the author:
Jeff Lakie is the founder of Dating Resources a website providing information on Dating
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What is it that makes you attracted to someone? The look? The character? The way he or she makes you laugh? Well, that is a few possibilities. Now let me ask you another question. What is it that you feel that makes a couple go on a date together, dates after dates? Think about it. Remember they have a choice of saying no to a date. Very simple, there is something of similar liking between the both of them, something which both enjoy doing together, over and over again.
Ask yourself this question, would you go on a date with someone whom doesn?t enjoy dining, watching movies, coffee at caf? etc. Not a thing at all of what you enjoy doing? For a couples to remain together, there has got to be something similar between both. Similar liking, interest, characteristic etc. The more the similarities there is between the both of you, the better the chances of a development of a further relationship there will be.
What are the similarities between both that you can work on? First of all, the physical appearance of course. Your physical appearance is the very first thing that catches a person?s eyes, the eyes of that special someone. Take note of the type of dressing style he or she likes? How is he or she normally dressed? A trendy and hip? Casual and sporty? Smart casual? Try to dress so, dress in the style he or she would like. Think about it, if you were someone who is very concern with the neatness and cleanliness of your physical appearance, would you like someone who is always so shabbily dressed? Naturally, a person would tend to enjoy the company of another who generally dresses similar to that of him or herself. Don?t you find it so within your usual group of click?
Next would be the hobbies and interest. What sports does he or she like? Does she play the piano? What type of movies does he or she enjoy watching? Does she love animals, dogs? Does he love fishing? What flowers does she like? Hmm? knowing his or her habits will be good too. Where does he or she normally hang out? Does she hate crowded places? How many cubes of sugar she like for her coffee? Does he hate shopping? Well in simple, find out anything possible under the sun about him or her. Not a clue where to start? Friends would be a good source to start with.
Ok guys, now that you know what she likes, it is time to plan for a little nice and enjoyable date with her. It is afterall still a guy?s job to ask the girl out, right? Notice I used the word ?enjoyable? instead of a nice and ?romantic? date? Well, a date involves two persons. To allow the chance for a further development of a relationship, the chance for a next date, you have got to make her enjoy the date, enjoy the time spent with you.
Take her to places that she likes, serve her food that she enjoys eating. ?Oh medium cooked for the lady please? Present her with flowers that she likes. She will be so surprised and impressed by you. ?Oh Rick, how do you know that I love Pink Tulips? It?s so sweet of you? Plan activities that she has always enjoyed. Watching a movie that she likes at her favorite cinema? Bringing her to her favorite musical, ?Phantom of The Opera??
Ha as usual, me and my ideas again. Well, I know you can definitely plan for yourself a more perfect enjoyable date. In simple, create a familiar environment for her, a date that she will feel comfortable. Naturally, she will enjoy herself, enjoy going out with you, having your company, developing a further liking for you.
Rick Valens Staff Writer for http://www.loveletterbox.com ,
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Regardless of the occasion, men everywhere flock to flower shops to pick up a dozen roses. Mother, sister, girlfriend, wife and secretary all receive a similar arrangement. There are hundreds of flowers and plants to choose from when purchasing from your florist or online, so leave the red roses behind and let the variety blossom.
Spring and Easter should lead to fresher, exotic flower choices. Tulips, irises, Gerbera daisies, snapdragons and sunflowers spike in popularity. A mixture of bud clusters of this and that makes a gorgeous gift to an aunt or grandmother. If choosing roses in the spring, yellow and pink will be a crisp addition to the dinner table or living room.
Get Well occasions and congratulatory occasions for an adolescent are difficult spots to fill. Depending on the age and situation, a popular gift-giving flower bouquet is one that is ready to eat! Strawberry blooms and pineapple baby's breath, or shiny blooms with a head made of wrapped candy. Fun, different and customizable, these edible bouquets are on the rise in popularity.
When an anniversary or Valentine's Day comes around, the annual choice by millions would be the red rose. Every woman loves a red rose, but if she's been seeing the same red dozen for every anniversary and Valentine's Day for the past decade, you might want to try something a little spicier. Even a rose in a different shade will perk up the recipient. Or try a spray with carnations in several colors, roses in several colors, chrysanthemums, purple asters or anything that catches your eye. Try to pick a selection yourself for important occasions, and on others let the florist do the work. Family and loved ones deserve your time to pick flowers out. A professional can do business associates and sympathy bouquets.
If you have the room on a windowsill or in a small garden, you can try your green thumb and see if you can be your own florist. Annuals, perennials, posies, tomato vines, herbs and more are things you can attempt. Gardening relieves stress and the reward is gorgeous flowers. Prices shoot to the sky around holidays and instead you can pluck something gorgeous for free.
Flowershave traditional meanings associated with them. Not just a visual spectacle, they can be messages. Here we can decode several popular choices.
Baby's Breath: Happiness
Cactus: Bravery and Endurance
Carnation, Pink: Emblem of Mother's Day
Carnation, Purple:Antipathy and Capriciousness (aka aversion, repugnance and impulsive, respectively)
Carnation, Red:My heart aches for you, Admiration
Carnation, White:Pure Love, Sweet Love, and Innocence
Carnation, Yellow:Disdain and Rejection
Chrysanthemum:Love, Truth
Daisy:Gentleness, Innocence, Loyal Love
Iris:Faith, Wisdom, Valor, Friendship
Lily-Of-The-Valley:Purity and Humility, Sweetness
Orchid:Magnificence, Love, Beauty, Refinement
Rose, Coral/Orange:Enthusiasm, Desire
Rose, Dark Pink:Thank you
Rose, Light Pink:Admiration
Rose, Peach:Let's get together, closing of the deal
Rose, Pink:Love, Grace, Gentility, Perfect Happiness, Please believe me
Rose, Red:Love, Desire, Respect, Courage
Rose, White:Charm, Secrecy, Silence, You're Heavenly, Humility
Rose, Yellow:Infidelity, Joy, Gladness, Friendship, Jealousy, Remember Me
Tulip:Symbol of the Perfect Lover
The next time you buy flowers other than red roses, you can wow the recipient with your knowledge. Some of the flowers have double meanings, so don't forget to attach that card with your purple carnations saying that this was an impulsive buy because of its beauty, and not a symbol of your aversion for them.
Author Bio Timothy Rea a flower enthusiast for over three decades with a web site dedicated to helping you learn how to planet, grow and have beautiful flowers. Learn about all the many diverse species of flowers and there attributes. Visit our web site dedicated to learning everything you need to know about flowers: http://www.flower.dnld.com
